Is it possible that there is one big cause of psychological pain and suffering?
Yes! The significant source of suffering is UNKINDNESS – to yourself and others.
Let us take a look at why unkindness causes the majority of the pain on earth.
When you’re unkind to yourself though your ideas, like judging yourself by telling yourself you aren’t good enough, how do you feel?
When you’re unkind to yourself through your self-abandoning activities, like eating badly, not exercising, or ignoring your own feelings and picking addictions, how do you feel? In the future you might wind up feeling physically sick, scared, alone and so forth. Your self-abandoning absence of self-kindness is causing your distress.
When you’re unkind to others through your words or deeds, how can you wind up feeling?
Suffering is caused by unkindness to ourselves and others.
Suffering Is a Result of the Wounded Self
The suffering in the world results from our wounded selves. The wounded self is not concentrated on true kindness. The wounded self is focused on control, and might even use kindness toward others as a kind of control, but control isn’t type and will eventually lead to distress.
This may never change on the amount of the wounded self. We can’t move to kindness unless that’s our intent, and the intent of the wounded self is always to restrain ourselves and others. The injured self feels that controlling brings security. It’s dedicated to controlling because it came into being when we were young to attempt and make us feel secure. The wounded self doesn’t understand that its current attempts to make us feel secure cause our suffering.
Consciously Changing Your Intent Can Heal Your Suffering
It’s only when our intent changes from control to learning what is most kind to ourselves and others that true change can happen. When you decide to concentrate on the question,”What’s most kind to me in this moment?” Then follow through with the kind thought or activity – toward others and yourself – you will be on the path of ending your suffering. Provided that your key focus is on the questions,”How do I have control over feeling safe and loved? How do I have control over not being commanded?” You’ll be perpetuating your own suffering.
Kindness is always a CONSCIOUS option. If you don’t consciously choose your intent – your attention in the moment – then you will unconsciously be concentrated on control.
Practicing Inner Work Recovery Process Can End Your Suffering
This is what practicing Internal Work is all about. It’s about choosing to be aware of your suffering so you can consciously decide to take responsibility for it by consciously choosing the intent to find out about the way your wounded self is causing your distress. It’s about consciously deciding to open to your advice about what is most kind to yourself in any given moment regarding your thoughts and actions toward others and yourself. It’s about consciously deciding to put kindness into action through your ideas and actions.
If you decide to practice Measure One of Internal Work – practicing mindfulness of your own internal experience, your feelings, your emotions, your own distress, and knowingly deciding to take 100% responsibility for your emotions – then you can consciously choose the other measures of Inner Work Recovery procedure.