Among the biggest hits to a grownup’s mind is the loss of a driver’s license. This is because with a driver’s license and automobile gives us a feeling of liberty, freedom to come and go as we please. Even if we do not go anywhere, knowing we can is sufficient. How would you cope with that? That is the way the senior feels too, only it’s worse because they know that they might never get it back. This thought may cause anger, depression, and a devastating blow to self-confidence, self-worth, and individuality.
When choosing a caregiver be sure they understand that if they drive the customer’s car the reduction of their driver’s license is not too big of a deal as it would be when they felt stuck, not able to get out or move anywhere. After a while older folks become comfortable, joyful, even revived in their discussions, enjoying being pushed around or being”chauffeured” as they prefer to say.
An acquaintance of mine at Camarillo who collaborated with me to write this report has a tragic story. Years ago his grandma pulled from neighborhood pool parking lot – pulled right in front a dump truck, she died instantly. The family forgave himas he cried saying how sorry he was that it occurred, even though everybody knew it wasn’t his fault.
A friend of his took the keys away from their dad because while they were driving around together the dad stopped in the middle of the freeway to point to something on a mountain, forgetting he had been driving on the freeway, and nearly killed them both, and yet another sibling. The dad was devastated he lost use of the vehicle, they probably saved his life and he lived another 10-years to see his grandchildren finish school.
We know of so many stories like these, but at times the DMV or court won’t take away the permit until there’s a dreadful accident or too many moving violations.
Because of liability issues, it is essential to find caregivers who can drive customers in the customer’s car for insurance purposes. This tends to work out well for all concerned. And, always remember to take care of this sensitive issue very carefully and with understanding.