Do you feel as if you’ve been going through life unable to connect to groups, with other people, or any part of society in a meaningful way? Has this growing feeling of disconnection from the outside world created deep feelings of isolation within you? Can you find relationships are challenging when the other person you meet is unable to fill a void in you?
It would seem we live in a time when it is possible to be connected to one another more than ever, thanks largely in part to social media. All a person has to do is to start up one of their online social networking accounts and discover countless new online friends. Then photos can be shared, significant events noted, and any other private or random information provided. If someone doesn’t like something shared, there may be negative interactions. Yet the hope is friends are available, they will listen to you, and they’ll like what they see and whatever you post or share.
So, with the availability of social media, why would anyone ever need to feel lonely?
If you can envision a pre-computer age when someone was at home alone, and they could not access social media accounts, they must have felt really alone. There would be no one else to talk to or interact with, unless they left the home or called someone and encouraged them to come over. Now we are living in a digital age and anyone with a computer has access to a worldwide audience or a seemingly unlimited base of individuals to connect and socialize with, talk to and be friends with, and someone can spend time socializing together through these social networking accounts. It would seem this is an era of the most highly connected people ever, which should equate to the most interactive and engaged individuals as well.
A universal truth is this: An individual link occurs at an energetic level, when two or more humans are engaged in a fashion in which they can experience each other through a multi-dimensional and multi-sensory method. This normally occurs during direct contact and typically face-to-face, when energies are easily exchanged and experienced.
The multi-dimensional effect can occur to a degree when a person speaks to another person through telecommunication devices, since there is still a multi-sensory approach involved and the flow of energy can happen to some degree. Where all of this is lost is when digital communication replaces human communication completely, if there’s no multi-sensory approach aside from perceptions and emotions. This is no more multi-dimensional as no energetic exchange occurs, which means a person can send as many messages as they want, believe they feel a specific way about someone else, and never really experience this other individual on an energetic level.
This is why a person who has thousands of friends on social media who they don’t understand can still feel lonely. If this person never met those friends, and/or never spoke with them, they’ve never had an energetic exchange. This is the reason a lot of online dating experiences seem to fall apart when the online exchanges move to in-person meetings.
How People Experience Life
As people, we are energetic beings. In fact, the universe is pure energy, as is every living thing in the universe. A person is living because energy flows to and through their body. A person goes outside, feels the end, makes an energetic connection, and experiences life. A person pets a dog or cat, makes an energetic connection, and experiences a bond as an animal such as that holds no ill intentions. These are connections, lively experiences that each and every person has in their life.
What Society Teaches Individuals About Connections
Yet the focus of life that people are educated is not how they relate with life, but each other. Someone could feel connected to life only by taking a shower or bath, feeling the water and allowing an energetic encounter to occur. However, this is a society which emphasizes relationships, being with someone, being ordinary, breeding, procreating, settling down, the”white picket fence” dream, and looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Somebody who is in their 20s should be thinking ahead towards the future and planning for the time when they will settle down and from their 30s, they should be with a suitable mate, partner, husband, or wife, based on social norms. Someone who has multiple partners, relationships, or one-night stands can be looked down upon and negative phrases and words are used to describe them. A single individual in their 40s usually suggests somebody with a shortage of some kind, often someone who values a career over a relationship, according to social standards.
The process of finding an appropriate partner, spouse, date, husband, or wife is comparable to finding online friends. This entails perceptions and reactive emotions, not a multi-dimensional, multi-sensory approach and connection if the sole method of connection made is through an internet website and/or electronic communication.
Society has greatly reduced the entire process to a swiping method based upon perceived physical characteristics, along with certain status indicators, as if this creates a feeling of knowing a person, which it never will. Physical attributes, together with status indicators, won’t ever replace a real human exchange where an energetic connection occurs.
What does it mean for an energetic connection to happen? It is developing a connection of who the real self is, with no mask of an online identity or avatar. It’s the real you, including your past and your current. There are no filters, no need to conceal, and there are no restrictions. There’s just a pure sense of wanting to experience life together.
Can this happen immediately? Yes, since there are no rules and you have established your life’s plan before you came into this physical existence.
Yet you might also have planned a time of cultivation or what some refer to as”getting to know one another” before making a long-term devotion. You might also not have a lifelong relationship with this person as your strategy may have been to participate in a series of short-term relationships. But the value of understanding all this is that you must engage with another person to have a true relationship, where energy is traded.
For many individuals, this does not happen as society emphasizes certain appearances, features, and other characteristics. It can be hard for anybody outside the norm to find someone to connect with in an energetic level. More to the point, society has emphasized the use of social networking to the point many people now think they have real friends on the web, even if they have never met most or all of them. Or those who attempt dating sites may develop an internet connection until they meet the person and discover it never really existed to begin with.
The simple fact is there are more lonely individuals now then ever before. Those using social media get quickly addicted to the process of finding and adding new friends, and trying to be liked for their posts, messages, and photos. The addictive nature is a consequence of what feels like the promise of a reward of happiness for gaining new friends and followers. Yet what most individuals find rather is a hollow feeling from the continuous effort put into the procedure. The level of desperation to get the attention of friends and followers has reached an all time high as well, to the point nudity and profanity is no longer shocking for most people to see or read.
Even worse, this digital communication can’t fill an inner sense of void. In actuality, the more that a person attempts to gain connections and friends through this means, the more likely they will develop feelings of despair. This positive energy is curative in nature and from it flows stability and balance. But if a person has isolated themselves from other people, tried to connect through digital means and failed to negate their sense of loneliness, the despair that sets in will intensify with time.
Even having one or two close friends might be insufficient to negate the inner sense of unbalance felt, if a person believes they should be at a certain stage in life and they aren’t, and/or they are supposed to be with someone else and they are not. It’s these mental conditions created by the standards in society that causes internalized pressures.
Even if an individual leaves their home and sets out to meet others, they could still feel as if they’re invisible to all, if their mindset is focused on finding something or someone to fulfill them. And even should someone meet somebody and establish an energetic relationship, if they haven’t addressed their current mindset, they can still feel all alone while in a relationship.
How to Overcome Loneliness
The reply to loneliness isn’t an outside fix or solution but an inner one.
The only way someone can ever begin to feel whole and happy is to learn how to concentrate on what is going on inside of them and how they feel when they connect with elements in their environment. A person can feel good by finding ways of linking to favorable internal and external elements. From an internal perspective, there are positive memories flowing throughout the energy flow. These may be family memories, together with accomplishments and achievements. From an external perspective, nature provides an abundance of approaches to join at an energetic level, from animals to plants to lakes and the oceans. Nature can be extended to include pets also, that have a sole purpose of bonding with humans.
Most people you interact with, even it is only for a brief period, may be a positive energetic connection if you allow it. Try to smile and say hello. Permit that energy to flow back and forth. The purpose of all of these suggestions is to help you realize you’re a living human being, not a profile or avatar. You can do this and experience life even if you don’t have the ideal mate, partner, husband, wife, or friends.
You have to first learn to be on your own and connect to life on an energetic level. This will drive away any sense you have that you’re alone because as a living, lively being you’re on the world and are never alone. Then as you experience life in this manner, some of these short connections will soon turn into long-term friendships and more, easily and naturally.